“What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do.” I think I live by this Tim Ferriss quote. It has become somewhat of a mantra when I’m fighting the urge to talk myself out of doing something for no other reason than being a scaredy-cat. No offense to cats, but sometimes I’d rather hunch my back, show my claws (that I don’t intend to use), and run.

Before you discount my posting or write me off, stop to consider what have you put off doing out of fear. I know I’m not the only one, and in most venture and circumstances I’m as fearless as a super hero. But under those rare occasions when I’m showing my claws and taking quick glances–ensuring that the coast is clear–it’s usually due to some underlying anxiety that I have to address before moving forward.

Here are a few methods I use to move past that all-consuming, action-halting FEAR.

1. Do It Anyway

That’s right.

I run into the burning building not stopping to acknowledge my fear or to consider the consequences. Now, this post is not advocating actually running into a burning building. It is, however, encouragement to write (blank)–the first chapter of your book, send that query letter, self publish your book. You fill in the blank.

Do the thing that is terrifying you most. Because in the end, you’ve normally worked it up to be more than it is. It will probably suck, but I am certain it’s not as gut wrenching as you’ve perceived. And most important, you would have jumped over your first hurdle.

Congratulations! (I’m standing at my desk clapping for you.)

2. Identify What’s Stopping You

Do you fear writing your book because of potential embarrassment? Have you declined on pursuing your dreams because you lack enough knowledge? Does self-publishing scare the bajeezes out of you?

We can make up all types of excuses. Write them down and determine which ones have merit. Then create a plan as to how you will address them.

But here’s the difficult, yet necessary next step, set a date.

You have to set start date for addressing the items on your list. This is not a free pass to wander about exploring your fears. As a result, you will have a deadline to assist with addressing your issues and moving forward. Adversely, if you fail to acknowledge your fears and take steps to alleviate them, you will soon amass new fears to accompany the old ones and your goals will seem further away.

3. Find a Buddy

I’m sure you’re thinking…a buddy. Yes, an accountability buddy. Find someone you can trust to hold you accountable for moving forward in your goals and dreams. You see, it’s easy to talk ourselves out of things that we haven’t shared with someone else. No one will never know you were supposed to be this super cool author rockstar, or that you are an exquisite storyteller.

However, when you share plans with another person it holds you accountable. You have to stand up and take charge or risk looking like a quitter or worse, a scaredy-cat.

Fear is the worse dream snatcher because the originating source usually lives within us. We can talk ourselves out of our best life or we can stand up and make it happen. Which do you chose?

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JA’NESE DIXON spends her days marketing professionals and businesses online and her nights writing. She is preparing for the release of her debut novel, Black Diamond, in June 2010. She’s an avid reader, crocheter, and music junkie, and the hugest Edward Cullen fan on the planet . . . (oops, did I write that?). Ja’Nese lives in Houston, TX, with her husband and two wonderful children. To learn more, visit her online at www.janesedixon.com.

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Next step is to prepare yourself ahead of time so you’ll have the best experience possible. Click on 10K DAYS in the menu above (beneath the blog header) and you’ll find more info.

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To participate, return to the HOME PAGE of this blog on the morning of your chosen 10K Day. (Each writer determines his/her own start time.) You’ll find a special post called 10K Day: Live While It’s Happening! and that’s where you’ll be making your check-ins.

The Live, While It’s Happening! post will give you pointers on what to post for your check-ins.

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I recently embarked on a fun 12-month project with my friend, Bev Walton-Porter, author of Sun Signs for Writers. The challenge is for me to come up with a writing prompt for each sign of the zodiac.

To find my inspiration, I first study the relevant chapter in Bev’s book. Bev posts the monthly prompts on her blog, Elemental Musings.

Each prompt will be presented on the first day of its sign. We purposely waited until the start of the yearly cycle and posted the prompt for Aries, the first sign of the zodiac, on March 21.

The prompt for Taurus was posted on April 20 (fittingly, I was traveling to New Mexico that day to visit my Taurus daughter). Like all the Fear of Writing prompts, these are designed to help bring the fun back into your writing.

Try them! You’ll find the first two at the links below:

March (Aries): Ram in a China Shop

April (Taurus): Bullprints in the Sand

To help you find your writing flow, each prompt also provides a link to a helpful article called “10 Tips for Using the Zodiac Writing Prompts.”

Have fun! – Milli